New Feature: Shytrovert Agony Aunt

 
Hey, I’m back. Apparently few care judging from the 3 lifetime responses on this site. Any hew, I’m not bitter. At all. In a new feature I call The Shytrovert Solves All Your Problems, I pick some random advice request from the net and answer. Maybe my solutions will help you out. Or not. Whatever.


Here’s a common issue I find on the net: a woman past 30 who feels invisible.

Dear Shytrovert,


I noticed that at the age of 35, when I began to show signs of age, people stopped treating me like a human being. I'm now just a curiosity - something to whisper about. There are days when my inability to associate with people my own age (or anyone else for that matter) depresses me to the point of suicide. I don't care about looking older, looks don't matter to me. But what I don't understand is why it is when a woman gets older, suddenly she doesn't matter anymore?

No offense, but society considers you old and ugly. Old and/or ugly women get ignored. Young, attractive women are noticed more because:

A) That’s what men of all ages like, and they are always on the prowl and they run the world
B) We live in a competitive youth and looks-obsessed society

You can complain about it (best of luck with that) or get in the game. Fortunately for us “older” women, attractiveness and confidence can trump youth. So here are your marching orders: get prettier. Take an honest assessment of yourself, first. Are you out of shape? Start exercising. Are you fashion-challenged? Get on line and read about clothes, makeup, and hair. Once you start making the necessary efforts, you will begin to feel more confident, and when you feel more confident and look stylishly put together, people will begin to notice.

I know it sounds shallow, but that’s the world we live in. Attractive, confident older women are not invisible. Two words: Helen Mirren.